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Thank you so much for your thoughts and guidance. I've known that depression is bad, and they've been giving her something for it, but she cancels that out with all the wine. If you ask her, she'll swear she only has one glass, even when proven wrong. She'll not accept any criticism of any kind and gets really angry if you even try.
I hope she detoxes while in the hospital and has enough braincells to come back to us for a little while. I miss her so much. I call her on a daily basis and my sisters are there (they administer her morning and evening meds due to medication abuse), but she swears we never call and they never come by.
Not to me, of course. When we talk - everything is okay and she's going to do this and that with her friends...but it never happens. I'm sure this is all classic - it's new to me because I live away and have been in somewhat of a denial about her condition; but my sisters have endured the most - and all of the abuse. I'm there 3 to 4 times a year for about a week each time because it's all the vacation/sick time I can muster...so I'm in good graces (the entertainer, they say), but my sisters are so frustrated. Long distance support is the best I can do, and it is okay for now. But it's not about me or them....it is about her. We're all trying to have faith. Thank you again for your time and invaluable support.
Tread carefully with this. You need to work closely with your mother's doctor (the one who is treating the early-mid dementia) on this. That is the root cause of most of your mom's problems and if not treated properly it will lead to more problems then you can imagine. Depression will be the least of your worries. (There is no cure for some forms of dementia but Aricet has shown promise in halting the deterioration of memory. It worked for my mom who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's) However, thanks to our Best-in-the-World Health Care System, few doctors have time to follow-up on treatment and are forced to see patients in assembly line fashion. Unless, you take the time to ensure your mom is taking her medications properly and you keep a journal of how different treatments affect her; ensure that she is eating properly, is getting enough physical and mental exercise etc. Unless you accompany mom at each visit to the doctor prepared to discuss your observations and concerns, the doctor will prescribe the same medication as last visit and send you on your merry way. That is all Medicare will pay for. And if you cannot afford the medication he/she prescribes, that is not his/her problem. It is yours. But if you inform him how well X medication worked and underscore that your mom cannot afford it; then he/she will be more disposed to help. He may give you free samples or tell you where to fill the prescription at the lowest price. MY point is YOU have to do the legwork and be prepared to give the doctor information that your mom will not or cannot provide. Trust me. It makes a BIG difference.
Your mother's drinking is certainly a problem. However, don't ignore or downplay the depression, either. Depression is very common among the elderly. She may be trying to mask her symptoms with alcohol. Take a look at our page on depression -- and keep your eyes out for symptoms.
https://www.agingcare.com/topics/116/depression