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Bringing him home would have introduced all sorts of other dynamics which would have made life unbearable, especially when you have no end in sight. Once she comes back to your home she may not be able to return to the ALF for an extended period. You will have no idea when that is and I imagine you will need to continue paying her ALF expenses.
And buying her a house? What is that even about? Just don't even entertain that idea. She certainly can't live on her own, especially now.
Please understand that if your mom goes into any facility and covid becomes present there, they will suffer staffing shortages. We just went through this in MN. MIL's facility (a very good, well-run one) locked down immediately in mid-March. At the beginning of May staff introduced covid in. They can't hire subs unless they can prove they were quarantined for 2 weeks. My MIL was very sick with covid for all of May (4 weeks). They moved her to a make-shift covid wing on the first floor so that families could have window visits. But she was so sick it was pointless. At one point they had 1 nurse to 16 covid patients. My MIL (because she had signed a DNR) was only given acetiminophen and 5 l. oxygen. When she stopped eating and drinking they did not give her IV fluids (because then her lungs would really struggle to clear the fluids). It was chaos for those weeks as the facility tried to keep up with sickness while keeping families informed. I pitied them -- they were exhausted. BUT my MIL did survive and recovered fully. Unfortunately 9 residents did pass away and who knows how many others had permanent damage (cognitive being one of them). My MIL didn't have any pre-existing conditions except frailty and short-term memory issues. She doesn't remember being on death's doorstep!
Just this Wednesday we had our first in-person meeting with her since March...5 months! They still insisted we be 6 ft apart and wear masks -- outside. MN just recently passed legislation that will allow anyone designated (and approved) as an Essential Caregiver to be able to come into the facility. You may want to check if your state is working on this or not.
If you take your mom to your home please remember that it is caregivers who bring the germs to the seniors (aka you, your husband and anyone else in your home unless you literally don't go anywhere). Then, what if her care was overwhelming to you and you needed/wanted help? Or she fell again in your home? She'd need to go into a hospital and then...rehab facility? But then maybe she wouldn't be allowed into a facility.
The house purchase thing...I don't understand what you are asking. You buy your mom's house and put it back in her name? Your put the funds into an account with her name? Sorry, it doesn't make sense as written. FYI I wouldn't do any big transactions for her unless you are her durable/financial PoA. If you're not, you need to pursue this first and foremost.
I wish you peace in your hearts that there's no perfect answer in this situation and you are doing your best.
thank you for your response.