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You say you're her sole caregiver, but also that she is in a nursing home, so what exactly is her living arrangement?
At 98 she has lived her life, don't let her live yours.
If she's in a NH as your profile states, then why are you with her every day, and why does she depend on you for everything?
You have up a job (when did that happen?), and now your relationship with your fiance is suffering? And your health is being affected. Have you considered backing away and letting the NH do their job?
You're paying a lot of money to have mom in a safe place-and cared for. I would cut back the visits and aid to about 1 hr per day--so 7 hrs per week. That's just me-and my experience from when mother was in rehab after a couple of surgeries, She wanted someone there all day, everyday, but she grew so demanding and obnoxious, one by one, us kids gave up and simply called her or visited her for just an hour at a time and NOT every day.
Tell her what you are going to do and be prepared for tears and possibly anger. BUT--you need to live your life.
"I am caring for my mother Carolina , who is 97 years old, living in a nursing home with age-related decline, arthritis, broken hip, diabetes, hearing loss, heart disease, mobility problems, and vision problems."
The NH is supposed to be caring for your mother, not you. You can go visit her every day, stay for a while, then go home.
If your profile is wrong, and you are caring for your mother at home, why did you bring her home from the SNF??? At 97+, elders will consume us, body and soul, as they require 24/7 care.
Please elaborate on your situation so useful comments can be left for you.
I am telling myself the same things every day. Blessings!