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The likelihood is that these people believe they are trying to help your mother. They are offering her company and trips out. They are trying to do as she wants. They are probably blissfully unaware of quite how unreliable her thought process is, or what the risks of the situation are.
But the reason they are doing these things is that you're not; and unfortunately you are currently responsible for your mother's welfare. Better roll your sleeves up and get to work on establishing her mental state.
And, by the way - you have checked that she hasn't been overcharged, have you?
I'd also consult with any elder law attorney. Your local Senior Center in your town should have a list of them and they work for much less than a regular attorney. Some of them are retired from private practice and are just trying to help out the elderly.
It sounds like these people are "gold diggers" and trying to change your mom's mind.
If your mother has dementia and lives alone, she may be needing a caregiver.
If you have medical POA, you need to be informed of her treatment and diagnosis.
There is a problem if they are going behind your back and not working with you.
Maybe your mother has asked them to? Do they think you have neglected your mother, denied her medical care, or withheld funds from her?
She has an attorney. Has her attorney been consulted about this?
I don’t want to control my mother I just want these people to stop. I want her to go shopping out to eat enjoy herself. She needs that interaction with other people due to she lives alone
This is just a personal bugbear of mine, but on the other hand attitude is everything when it comes to elder care...
You hold power of attorney not OVER a person, but FOR them. POA gives you the authority to act on the person's behalf, in her best interests. Starting out with the mindset that your mother has given you power over her and you can use it to stop her doing anything you're not happy with... well, it's not a good start. Your job is to act for her and as far as possible carry out her established wishes.
If the trust and your mother's care are now getting caught up in some kind of family power play and it's going to get ugly, then maybe the thing to do would be to go back to the lawyer who drew up the original POAs and get advice.
Who are the other people? What's it all about?
When did your mother create these powers of attorney? Is there any reason you're aware of that she might have to change them?
In any case, the question is one of legal competence. If your mother is competent/has mental capacity/is of sound mind, then no you can't stop her.