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I agree with LilMelba's comment below: You need to find a forum that deals with marital issues since this is no longer about a caregiver issue.
Unless you are as addicted to this familial drama as you may be to a toxic marriage, seek counsel from a divorce attorney and also seek the therapy support needed to disentangle yourself from this toxic marriage and all that it has entailed.
I haven't read you other posts, not that I can recall, and am glad of it. I personally have very little room in my life for other peoples' fabricated dramas, while some seem to thrive on it.
Seek the legal and marital/divorce support you need - elsewhere - and move on with your life.
Some things in life look best when seen in the rearview mirror, this entire ordeal appears to be one among them...
Perhaps it might be worthwhile to let the waves die down, to see whether it might be safe to swim together again. It’s been such a traumatic time, you must both be super-stressed. Yours, Margaret
Definitely seek legal advice: although having a look at the Nolo Press book first may help you to organize your thoughts. Putting some distance between you when one or both of you is resorting to name calling is good for the short term but eventually you’ll need to address fair division of assets and so on, so you’ll want to know what your rights are and what someone with experience recommends.
You will have to be the judge of whether you are really ready to end the marriage this time. You have some work to do on why now. What would you like your life to look like in six months or whatever timeframe you choose.
Try to be kind to yourself, and if possible, to him, even if only by limiting his ability to behave at his worst. If the relationship needs to end, try to end it as gracefully as possible.
I would offer you an apology if you were owed one. You are not.
You are mad because you have continually gone after milhell at probably the worst time of her life. You get called out to stop harassing her and you roll over to victim.
If you really understood her situation and cared, you WOULD NOT have told her to stop posting.
Obviously you have never been in a caregiver situation or you would be compassionate about the fallout from the pressure releasing, instead you tell her to go away. Wth?
I hope that you don’t write all these posts in your boss’s time, because that wouldn’t be nice. If you write them at home in your own time, it might be good to get some other interests.
You are no longer interested in her, fine. Take your own advice and leave.
Milhell is not atypical in asking for help with said subjects.
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