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It sounds like you are walking on eggshells around your sister. That gets old quickly.
Stop tiptoeing around her. If you must communicate with her, tell her the facts and don’t fear her reactions. In fact, don’t place a lot of weight on her responses. If she upsets you, end your conversation with her.
Chalk it up to this is how she is. Don’t expect her to change. Be careful not to enable her in any way. Live your life independently from hers.
Best wishes to you and your family.
I'm very sorry this has happened to you, but you're under no obligation to take care of a sibling you don't like. Her life is what she's made it, and you don't have to participate.
To tell them "My sis won't visit?"
Leave your sister alone. Apparently that is what she wants you to do. You have made a poor decision imho in giving her money and staying so entangled in her life.
And how would you think to give away your mother's care to her unless you are a financial POA? And IF you give away your Mom's car are you aware of the gifting consequences of that for your Mother and her possible needs for future Medicaid help?
I can't imagine all that is going on here, but it sounds muddy or soupy at best. I would think that caring for your Mom would be enough on your plate. Tell Sis to let you know when she's coming and let her know A) you need a week notice and B) it will have to be a convenient time for you BOTH. That's it. The end.
I wish you good luck. Remember, you can't change others or their actions. You can only change yourself and care for yourself.
Your Mom and Dad seem to still be alive. Where is she living? Are you sharing the caregiving for your Mom with the sibling you mentioned in the post?
Need to know this info -- it will be hard to give any advice without it.