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Counting your blessings is a good thing, and you obviously do that. But it is equally important to acknowledge adversity and be kind to yourself for minding it.
Full marks for delegation, too. But what about actual respite, r&r for yourself? Do you get any?
The worst thing you can do is sit around and ruminate about what’s going on. I am not the sort of person who volunteers, goes to coffee shops, walks in the park, etc. So, I read, knit and craft, athome where I’m still available for my husband but also on my own personal getaway.
You have have every right to feel any way you want.
This is what burns me out, never being able to stop it in my head.
Even though you have help in place you are still in control and that means it all sits squarely on your shoulders.
Find a way to escape mentally from the entire situation, whether a hot soak, a good book, a talk with a friend or a walk, whatever you enjoy and can be submerged in. You need to take care of you on this journey.
The physical aspect is usually the easiest part to deal with. As you are seeing first hand.
Hugs 2 u and come here to vent, rant, rave, question whatever you need. Lots of good people here willing to help you get it out. There are even some good scraps that take place, no one will hold anything against you. You are in a tough position and I believe everyone wants to help others feel stronger and more stable on this sorrowful journey.
May God grant you strength today and all the days you are on this path.
I pray that you are able to arrange some ME TIME, just to get a break here and there several times a week, just so that you can turn off your brain, and enjoy life once and a while.
Care giving is hard work, even if you have a lot of help. We took care of my FIL in our home for 13 years, but it was the last 9 weeks of his life on Hospice Care until he passed away, that was the hardest by far, both emotionally and physically. There was Hospice help in many times during the week, and We felt We had to have the house clean at all times, him clean, fed, medicated, and ready to accept the medical care and visitors, even if We hadn't had a good night's rest, and we were exhausted all the time, and we could never leave the house together at the same time, so it was super difficult, despite the great care we/he received from Hospice, which we greatly appreciated!
Rremember, this is but a season in your life, things will change eventually, and then we need to adjust to the next season, your new normal, no matter how difficult or joyous. Just remember to take care of you in all of THIS! God Bless You!
I put in nearly three full years taking care of my mother. She passed away six months ago and I'm only now starting to feel more like my old self again. All kinds of people have told me what I "should" be doing and how I "must" feel but it's all unique to the individual and the situation. My point being that in spite of having the wherewithal regarding help and etc. your feelings of being burned out are just as valid as anyone's are.
Yes, you have help but you're the one making that help possible and functioning. You're immersed in it.
Find the opportunities to take care of you. You matter.