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You need to have a conversation with your mother that goes something like... I'm checking out some nearby apartments this morning to see which one will work best for you. Would you like to go with me and have some input on where you will be living soon?
Rent the apartment of your choice, pay the first and last month's rent, turn the utilities on if needed and move your mother in there. If she resists getting in the car for the trip to the apartment then tell her you will call the police to escort her out of your house and hope they will take her to her apartment instead of jail. Maybe change the locks on your house?
You cannot change or control other people's behavior - you can control your own. Don't argue with your mother when she gets nasty. If you can keep your cool and act unaffected or amused you can sometimes keep the parent's barrage from escalating or even turn off the flow.
You do not need your mother's permission to have your own home that does not include your mother. Place your needs and the needs of your spouse and children about your selfish mother's wants.
I think you should plainly tell her, that this is not her house and she has to leave. If she needs medical help - I recommend taking her to a hospital, or a nursing home.
You need to think about yourself, your husband, and your children. This is YOUR life, it is not hers. You need to make that clear to yourself before you do to her.
Setting boundaries is incredibly important. So, if you think she is better off staying with you, you need to make sure she knows it is your house, these are your rules, and she will not act so and so way.
I hope you find peace soon,
Ana