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They told me that someone would call on Monday because it was the weekend. DAYS later, they said a facility wouldn’t be covered & started sending these two-bit “therapists” from an agency, who clearly had no experience dealing with dementia, to try & get him to do exercises. Half the time they wouldn’t even show up; the others they’d be late, so I’d be late for work.
I’d call & call to speak to someone in charge and get nothing but indifference. I ended up having to hire a private care person & fill the house with cameras to avoid being robbed blind or have my husband being mistreated. They want $20+/hour, and It’s hard to find anyone reliable. I just had the last one give notice that she’s leaving, right before Christmas.
If you have a dime to your name, you can’t seem to get any help. I got a social worker to come just once, and she took one look at my house & said we’re not going to qualify for anything, assistance-wise. The plan seems to be to get every dime out of the person and their family until they are broke, and THEN you can get on a list to wait for public assistance. I actually had a service tell me to cash out MY retirement from work to pay for a private care facility for my husband, because his pension and social security wouldn’t be enough. $7,000+/month for private care facility that smells, and the residents live in glorified jail cells. I just have no idea what to do except pray for a quick end.
Good luck...& Hugs 🤗
You need to determine IF you are financially responsible for her care.
If she has any funds or real estate, they will need to be liquidated to pay for her care if she needs residential placement.
Why were you considering taking her to a hospital?
Do you consider her to be in need of full time care?
Who wrote the prescription for the medication? Will that person give you a written statement about her cognitive status?
If she is unable to take care of her personal needs/safety, you will need to find out what kinds of services are available for her in your area.
This is very tough to consider when becoming the caregiver of a dependent adult. If you provide some more information you will find that many will provide general information to help you get started.
As others have said, if she can't be cared for, get her to an ER and then don't accept responsibility for release. They'll have to deal with it. Hopefully there aren't any issues with getting on medicaid.
Would she qualify for Medicaid? If so that might be an option and then get her on a list for a Memory Care facility that accepts Medicaid. (some Memory Care facilities also have Adult Day care)
If she is hospitalized you could talk to a Social Worker there and tell them that you are at the end of your rope, you can not safely care for her, you are concerned about her safety as well as yours. And by hospitalized I do not mean you bring her in for no reason..as they will not hospitalize her it would be an "observation".
By the way the dementia medications like donepezil (Aricept) do not work forever.
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