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You love him. He loves you. He would want the best for you. You want to be your best. Everybody wins.
If the caregiver is wonderful then you do not have to feel guilty. I know that you are grateful that you are blessed with a terrific caregiver.
All the best
Contact with other adults refreshes the spirit, relieves anxiety, and allows you to be your best self.
Don’t leave for yourself, leave for your husband, and come back for him too.
You need to get out when you can. Just say, "I love you. I'll be back soon." and off you go for shopping or book group or exercise class.
How great you have a care giver/helper you like. Treasure that.
Please find a way to get rid of that guilt!
you can not help that he has a disease, whether it be dementia, cancer or something else, it happened and you have no control over it. You will be a much better wife and caregiver if you take time for your needs. You can not subjugate yourself to the caregiver role 100%.
learn how to love yourself. Tell yourself, I am a good wife, my husband has care while I’m gone, I need to do self care so I don’t burnout. I applaud you for doing this! Now go and don’t look back as though you've committed a crime. Perhaps get yourself into an Alzheimer’s support group. They will support your decision!
As one with IBSD and BAM, double causes of severe bouts of diarrhea, there are times it is impossible for me to leave home. When it is severe, it is difficult at times to even stop cooking, wash hands, and make it to the bathroom in time. I wouldn’t care if the spouse went somewhere without me, want him to carry on life as normally as possible. We have enough adapting to do, with these horrific bowel diseases, despite the medications that sometimes work, and sometimes do not.
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