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Not sure if this will be your case or not, but keep an open mind, for your dad
Fast forward to when dad died and I had access to his office. Rude Aunt, being paranoid, had denied that to me when dad became sick (she was a corporate officer). After his death I was the one designated to run the business, which had to take care of mom. By then, I found that Rude Aunt was clearly inept at running a business, and so was dad. He should have retired at least ten years before. Files lost or tossed in a cardboard box, unanswered correspondence, money disappeared, dad's previous instructions not followed by RA so that there were lawsuits filed, etc. I saw malfeasance, misfeasance, lies, and had a terrible set of circumstances to untangle.
Dad confided to mom and me when he was dying that he knew Rude Aunt was "getting senile" but felt comfortable with keeping her on despite strong trepidations from my mother. Dad just didn't know how bad Rude Aunt was (and never did, because things came to light after his death that he couldn't have known).
This could happen in any business. If I, as POA, had been able to see what was going on at dad's office before he died, I'd have smelled a hundred rats and put a stop to some of the craziness somehow. I'd have replaced the secretary, retired Rude Aunt, and farmed out the bookkeeping. The business wouldn't have ended up in the toilet, so to speak, as it did.
Brenda, if your dad has dementia and still has a say in the business with your brother, SOMEONE needs to be monitoring it and not allowing dad to muck things up. Why don't you have a talk with your brother about this? That could be a good first step. Then, depending on whether you have any say-so, you can proceed with whatever your role happens to be.
There is no getting around a diagnosis of dementia. And it would be awful to have someone with undiagnosed dementia running a business partnership. If dementia is present, your Dad shouldn't be responsible for this.
You do not mention the way in which this "exaggeration" is being done.
If you are ALSO a partner in this business, or are your father's POA, you have a right to information. Otherwise you really don't have any rights in this. I am assuming your father and your brother are partners. If your brother is not discussing all of this with you I am assuming he must have his reasons.
Has your father come to you with information he is being forced out of the business by your brother?
More information from you would be very helpful.
Again, welcome, and I hope you will fill us in a bit more.
Who is POA?
Do you have any stake in the business?
Why not go visit dad and stay with him for a while. A week.
If you live near by you can make an excuse that you are having work done at your place.
Now you can see what dad is like when you're there long term.
While you are there OBSERVE. Do not prompt, help or prop him up.
If dad lives alone this might also give an indication that that might have to change.
If you are not POA and brother is you have very little to say about what happens next if dad does have cognitive issues.
And POA might not matter with a business depending how the agreement is and how large the business is it might be a different matter to remove a partner even if your brother does not have POA.
(I am not a business owner but If I were I would have something in writing that if my partner started showing signs of not being able to manage the business that they could be removed in some way like a buy out or other means to protect the business.)
If you have no stake in the business stay out of the business aspect of this.
If you are POA though and this part of his assets you need to do what you can to protect your dad's assets and that might mean he has to step down or sell. You should probably consult an attorney if you are POA
But what is it that you think he's exaggerating? How old is he? How often do you see him?
https://www.agingcare.com/topics/8/dementia-behaviors
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-help-with-bathing-and-personal-hygiene-top-tips-from-caregivers-212010.htm
Are there more details you'd like to add?