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It sounds like you are at your wits end. It’s time to take care of yourself. You have given all that you have towards a husband that you no longer love.
Look into alternative care services for your husband, then start to focus on yourself.
Wishing you peace as you move forward in this difficult transitioning phase of your life.
I can't help but wonder why you didn't divorce him long ago, but that is now water under the dam, and now you're stuck caring for someone you don't love.
Time to see a Elder Law Attorney to figure out your finances, so you can get your husband placed in the appropriate facility, and then perhaps a divorce lawyer so you both can move on from your loveless marriage, as you both deserve better.
It is clearly time for your hubby to be placed in care.
As Barb says, would love an update on how you are moving forward on plans for that.
It must have taken much courage to write this post.
Clearly, it's time to figure out Plan B, i.e. finding another care plan for your husband.
What help do you need in making that plan?
Retired RN. Mother of 2 sons and grandmother of 4. History of depression and currently have severe depression even with medication. I enjoy reading and talking with friends. I do not love my husband and haven’t even before his diagnosis. I am cross and impatient with him followed by feeling guilty. Vicious circle
OP, I am so sorry. What is your caregiving situation like? Do you get any breaks, any chance to just take care of yourself? Could any sort of respite be possibly arranged? Is your doctor aware of the severity of your depression at this point in time? Perhaps you need to call his/her office Monday morning— or even seek emergency medical attention for yourself if needed. There is a national hotline, 988, for folks experiencing suicidal or hopeless thoughts right now. Please don’t hesitate to use it if necessary.
I hope you can provide more info so possibly other members might have good, actionable suggestions for your situation.
Please hang in there— you are important and you matter. 😊