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Pams idea of having Sonny drive with dad is most excellent. ANother good way to see cognitive ability is to have him "help" you with a recipe. See if you can get him to do a recipe that is very straightforward with you. Pick a recipe that you know pretty well and ask hubs to read you the ingredients and the procedures while you do the recipe. Make an excuse that you have trouble reading it, or get the directions all confused, whatever works so that he has to read it to you. Do it so that he has to review & repeat more than one time - like Did you say that was 1/4 stick of butter? or 1/3? have him cut the butter. Ask was that blend the eggs& milk first then vanilla or all together? Make yourself some notes after you do this and share with his doc at the next visit when you go with him. Recipes are really good for testing cognition as they have math, reading and sequential processing involved.
I suppose you could also tell him to post on here about his complaint that he is seeing a doctor every year for his annual physical and everything is FINE and how can he get his spouse to stop bugging him just because he forgets a few minor things occasionally...I'd bet a bunch of us could help set him straight!
My first thought was TIAs as well, but there could be other neurological issues.
Do you ever go to senior expos, either at local senior centers or those held by the Area Agency on Aging? If so, sometimes there are medical professionals, especially at the local senior centers, who do brief exams as a prelude for further exam and treatment if necessary.
If there are brief hearing tests given, you could try to start there, then assuming a hearing deficit is documented, see an ENT doctor AFTER explaining to him first and privately what the situation is. He/she can "observe" your husband's mental functioning, and recommend a neurologist, but he doesn't have to specifically say it's for neuro evaluation. He might, without lying, just say that your husband needs to see a specialist.
When I've faced something like this, eventually I just calmly said that either we're going to get treatment or my caregiving roles stop immediately. I hate having to do that, but in those situations something needed to be done and I was tired of pleading.
Good luck.