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He says that they start with one pill about 2 hrs before bed, or even sooner if she starts showing signs of agitation. Then the 'whopping' dose is taken when she is put to bed with her CPAP on. She usually, sleeps about 12 hrs with this on board. If she isn't sedated into sleep, she doesn't GO to sleep. Just stays up all night fretting and fussing. Since her kids care for her pretty much 24/7, they have opted to utilize more sedation meds than they'd like, but overall, they have to keep her calm, or they have horrible nights.
Keeping a level of anti anxiety meds in the system, rather than waiting for the 'drama' to start has helped a lot.
Yoiu can't stop the paranoia. To them, what they fear is as real as anything you can see or touch. My MIL is terrified that mice will get into her house. As silly as that sounds, it's a very real fear for her.
She has a RING doorbell and she is actually scared of that, too.
A broken brain's fears is probably not going to be allayed by tactics like pushing a dresser up against the door.
Also, a new sleeping arrangement might be a good idea. Can he be put into a bedroom where the only furniture is a bed and that bolted to the floor? Then put a lock on the outside of the door so he can't wander?
Or it may be time to start looking into memory care for him. Barricading doors with furniture cannot be allowed.
And usually paranoia doesn't last all that long, as he soon will be on to another symptom of this horrific disease called dementia.
If things get to be just too much for you, you may have to start looking into placing him in a memory care facility, where you can get back to just being his loving wife and advocate.
Without knowing more, I would encourage exploring assisted living or memory care, depending on needs.
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Have a caregiver overnights.
While medication might help ... I believe that you cannot 'stop his paranoia,' you can only address it and take preventative safety measures.
Gena / Touch Matters
You didn't mention if your husband was diagnosed with any type of Dementia.
Has your husband been checked for Lewy Body Dementia?
You may have to make an appointment with a Geriatric Neuro-Psych doctor or a Psychiatrist. Check out all of their credentials on your State Medical Board website.
Perhaps, some anti-anxiety medication would help. It may take a little adjustment period but oftentimes, it's a must, unless you want to be up 24/7.
I hope I was of some help. I will pray for you...
You may need to consider placement for him if it has become to much for you. A friend of mine is finding placement right now for her husband for exactly what you describe. The husband's behavior has become too much for her to handle.
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