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Luckily my aunt was well enough to go to Bank - BofA will let a POA make deposits and order and write checks but would not let me as POA do online banking. She told Bank she wanted the online banking and I was able to set up and over see her account and co-partner with her.
As far as other accounts, you need the bills and her personal info to change online.
I asked Dad if he would mind if I got the bills and paid them from his checking account. He was more then happy. So I took home the bills I found, went into each website and changed over the "billing address" to my own billing address.
I already had a joint checking account with Dad which I used only for paying bills. Not once did I need to show a Power of Attorney. Guess it all depends on the utility company.
That said, all the utilities I've dealt with have websites where you can set up an account, view and pay bills, etc. It would require information probably found on her bills--account number, etc. If you can't visit her and obtain that, perhaps visiting friends could snap cell phone photos of the bills they see lying around and email you the photos.
I have my in-laws' bills all set up so the balance is charged on the due date to their credit card. Then the credit card is automatically paid monthly from their bank account. Maybe your mom would agree to let you set that up. She will still get the bills for review-- she just won't have to bother with writing checks, etc. Her bills would be paid on time, and (this may be an incentive for her) she can get rebate points or airline miles or whatever on her credit card. If she claims that she's not getting the bills, this could reassure her that her services won't be shut off just because the post office lost her mail.
I like Rainmom's suggestion about "this is a small thing I want to do for you." It's so much more loving and less demeaning than insinuating that she is incapable.
You really need to find out what the problem is with the POA and get that resolved before she becomes incompetent--either mentally or physically. That can develop into a bigger problem than shut-off utilities.
Best of luck!
Sorry. I know that doesn’t help you.
Both my my parents have since passed. However -
When I took over the bills it initially occurred because both my parents had medical crises at the same time and were both in rehab.
I would grab their mail to take to them, separate out the bills - then with my dad (thankfully they were in different rehabs - but that’s another thread) I would write out the checks and then one right after the other, I would have him sign the checks - telling him what each was for. This was before I had DPOA.
Once my father returned home - he was still not 100% - so we continued the practice - with him putting all the bills in a tray until I made my weekly visit. At which time we did our bill routine.
Now - since you don’t live near your mother I realize this won’t work for you. BUT - the thing was - how I got my father to let me continue paying the bills AFTER he felt he was up to it.
I played the guilt card. Yes - that little number can work both ways! I really played a trip on him about how after everything he has done for me all my life I NEEDED to feel like I was doing something for him. Even if he didn’t need me (he did) to do this for him - it made me feel good to do this tiny thing (minimizing his loss of responsibility) for him. And we continued on like that up until his death. Having him still sign the checks let him feel he still had control AND HE was doing ME a favor!
Could something like that work with your mom. Sometimes they know deep down that they can’t do it any longer but their pride - their position as the parent, etc. won’t let them admit they need help.
After daddy passed I got a DPOA for my mother - and she was happy to let me do EVERYTHING- more than I wanted to at times. Mom had let my dad take care of their finances for 62 years - she sure didn’t want to start doing the finances once he was gone. Soooo - no argument there.
Lucky me.