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You need help. It’s hard to take care of everything by yourself. Understood.
Call your Area Agency on Aging and ask what services are available for your mother.
You may qualify for assistance yourself. If your mom is unable to care for herself perhaps it’s time to look into AL. Do you live with your mom or she with you? How about meals on wheels, have you looked into that?
I hope you take the time to call AAA today and get them out to do an assessment to see if they can help. I’m sorry you are having such a hard time.
If you are not well yourself, taking care of someone else by yourself is extremely difficult. I would seriously consider hiring a caregiver, paid for from Mom’s funds or getting her on Medicaid. Check Medicare to see what they’ll cover. Tell your sister what you’re doing. If she knows Mom’s money will be used for that, she may decide to pitch in. You never know.
Are there chores that can be “let go” for a while? I take care of my husband and and I certainly don’t wear myself out dusting, vacuuming or scrubbing floors. Laundry, dishes and meals and that’s about it.
If Mom can fold laundry, put a pile in front of her and tell her you’ll put it away when she’s done folding. No option.
Take care of yourself.
My solution would be to hire someone for mornings. Help her get up, wash, dress etc. If you don't have the money call Medicaid and see if they can supply an aide. Call your Office of Aging. At 89 she shouldn't be expected to do chores. She should be able to do what she wants when she wants. What are you expecting?