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AFTER you arrange to get what you need from her apartment, then either you - or sister, if she is able - need to call the landlord and tell that person or entity that sister is NO LONGER going to reside in the apartment and wants to be removed immediately from the lease. (I say *after* you've gotten her possessions out, because if you do it before then, legally she will have no more rights to enter the apartment.) That sister will be willing to pay her share of the rent for the remainder of the term of the lease upfront. Follow this up in writing and send that "return receipt requested".
When you go into the apartment to get her stuff, take pictures of everything. Take pictures of the condition of the rooms, take pictures of the stuff you're removing BEFORE you remove it. That way, when the lease is over, your sister won't be responsible for damage ex incurs after she leaves. You might have to front her some money to be able to do this, and I don't know if that's something you can do. But for as long as she's on the lease, she's responsible for half of that place, whether or not she lives there anymore. Pictures are important here. They will prove her case and disprove any lies he tells later on.
https://www.quora.com/How-can-I-get-out-of-a-lease-with-an-abusive-boyfriend
https://www.thehotline.org/ (for victims of domestic abuse)
I am hoping someone is POA and that Sis won't go back, because that is what happens in about 85% of these cases.
It would be way more expedient for the OP to go to court to file for an Order of Protection and ask for a uniform police escort to get the items out.
If you are determined to do this, then get an Order of Protection - even a temporary one - and take it in hand to the local police and tell them you/sister needs an escort to obtain her possessions. The police should go with you - but bear in mind, they aren't going to be willing to be there for hours while stuff is packed up. It will strictly be a "grab and go" sort of thing, where you grab a few items that she absolutely needs. Anything beyond that, and the police are going to tell you to go to family court or small claims court and sort it out there.
With that in mind, I have to ask - what sort of possessions are you talking about? Is there anything that she desperately needs that can't be easily replaced? Anything of great monetary value that might still be there, that the ex hasn't made off with and sold? It might be safer for her - and you - to just let the "stuff" go and replace what needs to be replaced, even if you have to do it piecemeal. I understand the idea of that rankles, but this might be a case of discretion being the better part of valor.
As long as you entering the home and getting the items is "legal" (ordered by the court) or you have her permission you might be able to hire an off duty officer or there are security firms you could hire to accompany you.
You say you do not want to interact with the ex....someone needs to be there that can identify 'her" belongings from "his" so that there is no accusation that you have "stolen" his property.
He does not have to be there but someone that knows her belongings from his needs to be there.