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Also come up with standard and vague answers to the questions. Don't really engage, keep it high level and move on. I don't know is a valid answer. As is I'm not sure or I'll look into it (and hope she forgets about it).
I understand your frustration - hence my name of againx100 - she was looping and driving me NUTS!
Good luck.
Be creative and have some fun with the answers.
To move in to provide supervision/assistance after a hospital stay? Until Mother was 'back on her feet'?
"I had to idea what I was in for when I took her home instead of placing her when she left the hospital".
That's OK. You tried it. Call that Plan A.
Now you DO have a very clear idea of how much care she (& the house/grounds) need.
So now you can make changes.
Move to Plan B.
Watch Teepa Snow videos for a little bit of info on the mind with dementia.
This repetition is one of the most common effects of the disease as is disturbed sleep patterns, paranoia, etc.
The internet is your friend here. There are just tons of things about dementia.
A good diagnosis from neuro psyc evaluation will tell you what kind of dementia Mom may have and it's important to know that the dementia vary a whole LOT. Some have more angry outburst and moments that are either better or worse. Some have a whole lot of hallucination and are very real for the patients. They vary a whole lot.
I did this with my late MIL. In retrospect I realize I left the pad on a table in her small room at an AL facility that she forgot to frequently look at but if I had taped the pad to the wall next to the bathroom I think it might have helped.
Anyway just a thought. Hope you get some help with your situation.
Your mother has dementia, so of course she's going to ask the same question over and over, as her brain is broken and she can't help it.
It sounds like you need to better educate yourself about the horrible disease of dementia so you can be better prepared for what lies ahead as she will only get worse.
And it's probably past time that she needs to be placed in a memory care facility where she will receive the 24/7 care she requires and you can get back to just being her son and advocate, and actually get a good nights sleep.
If you're not careful you will be in the 40% of caregivers that will die before the one they're caring for with dementia from stress related issues.
I'm sure your mother would not want that to happen now would she?
Do you have help with caregiving? You sound exhausted.
This is too big of a job for one person. Look into hiring additional help for your mom.
Is mom in your home or are you living in her home? Tell us about your situation.