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What a loving and kind daughter you are to care for you dad with Alzheimer's. We are all human and its only natural to lose our patience or feel frustrated. It's really hard. Sending you hugs, my friend. But if things get to a breaking point, I hope you will talk to a social work and explore all your options. I didn't even kids in the household and I found it just continued to escalate till I got so angry and resentful about the basic things.
Thinking of you on this Mother's Day! I hope you are able to do something just for you.
Your profession in special education and having been your son's special caregiver have probably helped your understanding of some aspects of caring for and adapting to someone with dementia. But caring for a parent with dementia is different -- for most of us it's an obtrusive and difficult role reversal with no expectation for things to get better. Your dad forgetting and then not caring about your son's birthday party are both symptoms of people with dementia -- they can't remember and the world in which they live gradually shrinks into themselves.
While I'm not an expert, I do have experience with Alzheimer's dementia and the need it creates for education about the disease and how to cope with its progression. I've found that adaptability, flexibility and extreme patience are valuable coping tools that not every good person has and, I suppose, not even everyone can learn. That said, participating in one or more Alzheimer's support groups, in addition to giving you an additional place to vent, can help with understanding the effects of the disease on your dad and adaptations your family can use to help cope. This website forum is also good (e.g. freqflyer's UTI tip), as is the Alzheimer's website, and there are lots of other educational resources -- one that I recommend as a self-help starter on the Alzheimer's caregiver journey is "The 36-Hour Day."
Thanks for that tidbit. It has not been checked. He hasn't complained but I have noticed some urinary issues when doing his laundry.
So true!
What do you think about putting your father in a facility?
It sounds like you are very frustrated with your dad's behaviors, this will definitely make the whole house feel upset. This will lead to a lot more ruined days.
Personally, I am not able to hide my emotions really well. If I am upset, mad, or frustrated I cannot hide it. This will affect the whole mood of the house like a black cloud. On the other hand my brother is able to take things in stride by laughing it off and simply going about his business enjoyably. I sure do wish I can do that.
But if your dad's Behavior affects your mood that much, I agree with Barb, it is time for Dad to be in a facility. We don't get a second chance at raising our children. Good luck and God bless.
It's like having a 2 year old. He needs more supervision than you can give alone, doesn't he?
You either need caregivers, or he needs to be in a facility.