By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
If so the Social Worker and or the Chaplain are great people to talk to.
Hospice also has grief counselors that you can talk to.
You are lucky, your dad is lucky
You have a father that means a lot to you and obviously has been a great dad, role model. There are a lot of people that do not have that.
Your dad is lucky that he has a loving daughter.
When I was caring for my Husband I was sitting at his bedside and I was talking to him and I was crying because I knew he did not have much longer. then I realized that the tears I was sheading were "selfish" ones.
I was crying because I would miss him
I was crying because I was losing him.
I was crying because... I, I, I...it was all about me!
This was no longer the happy, smiling, blue eyed man that I fell in love with, the one I still loved. This was a shell. the blue eyes no longer sparkled, the smile was long gone, he no longer laughed, he would not want to live like this!
I told him I would be alright. I told him that I love him, would always love him.
I had known for 12 years, when he was diagnosed what would happen.
I had Hospice, they helped a lot.
I was prepared.
Or I thought I was prepared.
The morning that he died I felt as if someone had ripped my heart out of my chest and stomped on it.
Just take this time to talk, hold hands, tell him that you are there and thank him for being a wonderful dad and let him know that you will be alright.
Watching the slow decline of a loved one is heartbreaking especially when you know there's nothing you can do about it.
Please take care of yourself and reach out for some help with your feelings which are quite normal.
God bless you.
Have you spoken to a therapist about any of this? I did go see a therapist and it always helps to get an objective viewpoint on what is troubling to us.
Best wishes to you and your family.