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Please, for your mother’s sake and for yours, give up worrying about “how it looks” to offer someone with dementia/anxiety SOMETHING that gives her peace and comfort.
How fortunate you are that she has this. If you are REALLY FORTUNATE, she’ll be able to FIND comfort in this way for a while before it’s present purpose fails her.
”Handle situations” if you feel you must, by saying “Mom, let me hold her while you have your blood pressure taken”.
And PLEASE don’t try to mess around with depriving her of this. It COULD increase her distress. Why even consider doing that?
Nobody thought twice because for a brief time they were a status symbol. They were very expensive and hard to get, so if someone had one they showed it off in public like it was a real baby.
You know, no one would think twice about some elderly person carrying around a doll.
I’m guessing that your mom has false beliefs fixated that she runs a child care place or has young kids or that you just had a baby. It will eventually pass or get to the point they forget about it for days. Their dementia places them in an alternative solar system..... my take is as
long as it’s not placing them into something unsafe, let it roll.
My mom thought there were & worried about “orphan gypsy children living in top floor of her NH”...... why? well that NH was nearby a college so from her window she could see kids with tats & earrings (gypsies!) & they would disappear around the corner where the NH entrance was; they never went to the cafeteria & she worried if they were getting meals. They had to be orphans as they never were with parents. I’m so glad I kept a journal as looking back now that she’s dead, it’s quite a good & funny read.
Or someone can spend ten bucks at the Goodwill and buy a portable, small second-hand stroller and keep it in the corner of the room. Put the "baby" in the stroller when it's time to get the care done for the dementia patient.
Truly, I hope you or someone else had a WORD with that aide and her superior. I certainly would if I saw such a thing.
Your best bet would be to educate yourself about dementia by reading everything you possibly can on the subject. Watch Teepa Snow videos on YouTube as well; she has some remarkable ideas about how to handle people with dementia in the most comforting manner using the "Hand under hand" technique with dressing, bathing and assisting in general. The more you learn, the less agitated & combative your mother will be.
Wishing you the best of luck learning & coping with all the new changes you both face. My mother is 94 with dementia as well, and it's tough for me to watch her going down this path. It's hard to watch someone you love change & morph to THIS degree, before your very eyes, isn't it? You kind of want to shake her and say COME ON NOW MOM, snap OUT OF it, but you can't. It's the hardest thing I've yet to witness in my 63 years on earth. Sending you a hug of understanding, my friend.
Her doctor knows that she has cognitive decline so no one is going to judge her. No one else’s opinion really matters.
Make it easy for your mom and you by allowing her to have her baby with her.
Just let her take the baby doll. Who even CARES? My mom would take her 4' stuffed orange rabbit if she could.
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