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Best of luck
I will admit that with her being my wife, I was more tolerant with her behavior than normal.
She would also try dusting the furniture and a few other things. None of which were done correctly.
You might try asking hubby to put the dishes away and he could see how poor the job she does actually is. Or put a dirty dish in front of him at supper.
Until he has actually seen the results he may not accept the amount of work involved.
I wish you luck.
I just googled “lock for dishwasher” and they are available. Who knew?
If washing dishes is her thing let her wash them all over and over. Some of the pretty unbreakable ones might be fun for her. Give her a dish drain to stack them in. Not clean just wait a few min and pop them back in the sink with fresh suds. Think 5 yr old.
She will not want to do dishes very long. She will move onto something else.
I know I would be very upset with my husband if I were you. He needs to take responsibility for her. She’s his mother. Where is yours by the way? Have you been able to spend time with your family these past three years?
Congrats on the new grand baby. Don’t let this time pass by with you tied up with MIL.
Try to introduce help into your home so that you can live your life.
I am so sorry that happened to you with the police officer. It sounds like some training is In order for police officers dealing with dementia.
But for the small problems try to look for solutions you would use for children. Putting things out of sight and reach. Locks. Disable. You can’t trust her obviously.
Come here and vent. We will try to help.
You've been caring for Mom for three years. Might it be time to explore other options? If she can handle her Activities of Daily Living, such as dressing, toileting, personal hygiene, etc., maybe Assisted Living. There are some, I’ve read, for people with dementia. Or maybe Adult Daycare to give you a break. Your local Area Agency on Aging may be able to suggest options.