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The only person you can change or make to get help is you.
Move out and take care of yourself.
My family has those with untreated schizophrenia and untreated bipolar. I think the diseases are harder on you and I. Best of luck.
The question was between
A. "How to get my ... Father help" or
B. "Remove him from my life"
Look for option C.
Change yourself.
Care for yourself.
How old are you that you are stuck? Because at 18 you are free to move out and live your life on your terms and expense.
if its not in that scenario, then best you can do is convince him, and tell him the alternatives if he does not do it.
Do you have anyplace to go?
I've always said I will live in a cardboard box before I live with another abusive person.
Your brain is not thinking right at this point because of the abuse. You may think it is but once you get away , you will have much more clarity of the situation.
And please seek some therapy.
Do you work?
Like others said, you will not change your dad you can only change you, and what you will put up with. Your father is probably an alcoholic.
Honestly, I don't care what you dad eats, or if he exercise. This is about you and you getting out of there.
Step up and take responsibility for yourself. He's his own problem, not yours.
Can you tell me that?
Do you LIVE with him?
Does he LIVE with you?
And if either of those are true, whose fault is that, exactly?
If you do not want to have anything to do with a mentally ill abusive person I suggest you stay out of their general territory. It may be a good idea to move away across the country so that you will not be tempted to manage the unmanageable.
He will not change.
The only question left, then, is--will YOU?
Why do you choose to live with someone so abusive? Surely it would be better to be homeless than to put up with his sh*t right?
You do deserve better, but for some reason you have chosen to put up with him and his abuse.
Is it because your father pays all the bills and you're choosing not to work? Or is it because he's gotten you so beaten down that you don't know any better?
Whatever the reason like I already said, you need to get out sooner than later.
A homeless shelter would be better than where you're living now right?
And if you are the one enabling your fathers drinking and pot smoking by going to get both, just stop. You are only making matters worse.
And like already mentioned, call APS in the morning and report the situation, and let them take over his care.
You need to step as far away as possible from him and the situation.
Move out , maybe other family or friend can let you stay temporarily . If he is not able to take care of himself call APS. Does he go out on his own ? If not , who brings him booze and pot? How old is Dad ? Do you have a job ?
do you have other relatives or friends who can help you move out?
You can call adult protective services in your area and say he is not safe living on his own if you believe that is true.