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Is your Mom taking meds for her cancer? When I had breast cancer, I remembered being placed on medicine that had terrible side effects such as panic attacks and feeling like my brain was always in a cloud. After 4 years on that medicine, I just threw the bottle out. Sometimes the treatment can be worse then the illness.
Take your Mom to her primary doctor and ask for her to have an Urinary Tract Infection test. UTI's can mimic dementia. If the test comes back positive, it can be treated with antibiotics.
My mother had advanced dementia and I watched her go from a feisty and outspoken woman to a withered shell of her former self over a 6 yr period. She lived in Memory Care so I did no hands on caregiving for her, and only had to deal with her for visits, dinners, and phone calls. And it tore me up every time. You are dealing with changing dressings for breast and skin cancer in addition to cognitive decline, which must be terrible, I can't even imagine.
You need help and you need respite. Hire someone to come in and give you a break, a caregiver for 4 hour chunks of time. Look on Care.com. Plan to leave the house and get some air, have lunch out, meet a friend, anything.
Learn to hum while you go about your daily schedule.....it prevents you from THINKING and stops your brain from working overtime trying to fix a terminal issue.
Get some counseling. Talk therapy will help you find some coping mechanisms to deal with the extraordinary pain and responsibility that's on your heart and mind.
Go out into the garage and hammer stuff up. When my son was an infant and screamed for 12 hours straight with colic, I'd put him down in his crib and go into the garage and hammer the old wood shelves into literal splinters. It helped me get out my frustration at what I had no control over.
Have a good cry once a day. Just let it all out.
"Tears are God's gift to us; our holy water. They heal us as they flow."
-Rita Schiavo
When you feel overwhelmed and panicky, ask yourself this question: What is wrong at this very moment?
The answer is always Nothing unless your arm is hanging off by a thread. The answer to that question will thrust you into the present moment and OUT of dwelling in the future anxieties or the past depressed,moments.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation. God bless you Lwayne.
Watching your mom slowly loosing everything, it's a horrible process and pretty much tourcher for the caretaker.
So we are here to support you though this , vent or ask questions anytime.
It may help you to learn more about dementia, on Google.
I get it , watching my mom deteriorate. Is like watching my kids grow in reverse. We watch are children take there first steps, then we watch are parents taking there last. It hurts!!!
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