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Can you and your dad give your mom "tasks" during the day, like folding a large pile of kitchen towels, matching and pairing a lot of colorful socks, sorting plastic utensils...anything that will burn her mental and physical energy so that she's occupied and has a sense of purpose? We did this for my 99-yr old aunt with mod/sev dementia and she sleeps through the nights 99% of the time, even if she naps during the days. She does the tasks at least 2 to 3 times a day. Sometimes she does it with relish and other times not so much but we tell her it's super helpful and important and she usually completes it. Occupies her for about 20 or more minutes, which is so helpful.
We also purchased a 2nd hand foot pedaler for her to work while she watches tv or looks at a magazine (does it for about 15 minutes every day). Burning her energy may help everyone to get some sleep at night. Keep trying things, as something will surely work. Dementia never stops changing our LOs and so we must continually adapt. Everything about dementia is hard. May you all receive rest and peace in your hearts!
Whenever we suggest an activity she'd rather not do it. She won't even do her physiotherapy without a doctor in front of her and only played a board game with me recently because her sister was visiting and wouldn't let her not play. If it had been me doing that I'd have been argued with and she wouldn't have played properly at all.
Energy wise maybe you're right, but like I said she won't do it without someone else basically forcing her. With us she's like a stubborn mule but with others she's more amiable, especially when she can hear them
Do you and your father currently get any back-up or support at all?