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they're both in school. December/January is summer vacation time here at my corner of the world. The cleaning Lady schedule is pretty full already. But yes, I talked with SIL today, we'll discuss options mon /Tue. Looking good. Thanks all
Just curious but since SIL only works in December does she help with your parents the other 11 months? It might be a good time to approach her as well on future care taking.
Have you tried English?
Seriously, if you don't explain the situation to your sister it is not fair of you to expect her to read your mind. She is going to have to do what other working parents do who don't have near-by healthy and willing relatives to do childcare. Pay for someone to come into the house, or send the kids to a childcare facility, or arrange her hours so Dad cad be with the kids. This may mean that her seasonal work may not earn more than she spends for childcare. Whatever you feel you owe your parents, you do not owe your sister a months worth of income so that she doesn't have to pay for childcare. Tell her. (As nicely as possible, of course, and with much regret.)
Here is a thought: Could the cleaning/cook person take on childcare duties, too, for additional income? Would she be a suitable choice for that?
Isn't the older girl in school? How does that work out in December?
Be true to yourself. Don't do something for someone that's going to cost you something you can't afford. Like a month of work.
And like Countrymouse said, be quick about it so other arrangements can be made.
And you do, in a way. Gorgeous little poppets, what's not to love. And it's great that you're still so fond of your parents, too.
But you're too busy, and this is too much. This year, tell them deadlines make it impossible for you to manage more than weekend cover and they'll need, between them all, to hire in help. And be quick about it, too: it would have been better to bring this up earlier and give them more notice. Still, can't be helped.