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As Llamalover says perhaps if this is the same friend and she does not manage basically keeping your mother company during the day to a standard you would like, it would be better to speak to an agency and see if someone with more experience was available.
I have to agree with her and possibly amend my comment.
I ask the same question. Is this the same person that watches mom when you are working? the one that you feel is not doing a great job? If so then I do not think this is the person that should be watching mom while you are away. If you are not impressed when she is being cared for by this person for 4 or 5 hours are you going to be worried, concerned, anxious for 24, 48 hours that you are away?
If anyone is caring for a loved one and they are doing something that they should not be doing, or they are not doing what they should be you need to tell them. How can they know if something is not right? I assume you are paying this person for the 4 hours when you are working. If so just like any employee if something is not right you have to instruct the person as to what should be done. And as mom declines the instructions will change.
Have you spoken with her about the level of care she provides, that you state you are not impressed with?
Do you normally pay her to watch mom?
I am asking because I think that makes a difference in how much you pay her.
If you asked her and said you will pay her I would do the $20-25 an hour.
You can also call an agency and ask what they would charge for the same length of time and the same service and go from there. Keep in mind the agency does not pay the caregiver that entire fee. The caregiver gets what amounts to a miniscule portion of what you are charged. (many caregivers are paid around $13 to 15 an hour as an average it depends on where you live.)
Paying anything might demean the gesture (if it was offered to be of assistance). In this case, you can 'repay' in kind - spend a day together where the treat is on you as a way of saying thanks.
This shows appreciation and values the friendship over the monetary consideration.
Otherwise, you could slip a small sum in a thank you card and speak nothing of it.