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But if the caretaker doesn't know, and something happens....especially with any level of dementia but most definitely if he's adamant that he wants the gun(s) available, you'd feel horrible.
You might want to consider asking the police for assistance, especially if there's concern that someone might be shot because of nighttime confusion.
A person at ANY level of dementia must not have access to guns. There was a case in the news here of a father killing his son because he thought he was an intruder. This is just way too dangerous.
I don't know if the police or the sheriff's department can help with this, but I think I would start there.
I am so sorry you and your brother are in this very frustrating situation.
Be VERY careful that you don’t wear your brother and husband out. Listen to them. They are in this too. Your brother was right to remove the gun, just maybe not in the manner he chose. Will dad remember tomorrow that his son tried to remove the gun? Pace yourself. This is a long road.
Your husband’s entire life is up for grabs with you caretaking your father! What do you mean you don’t ALLOW your husband. This is his life too!!
Forgive me, Bills Daughter, but you need to take a minute and reflect on that position.
On the other hand, this may have been a wake up call for you and brother that you can’t really expect dad to act rationally. He has dementia.
I know its hard. realize its not your fault and something may happen even tho you are trying to keep him safe. he may decline slowly in his memory, but eventually it will get worse.
my dad was fine as long as he was left alone(as long as he wasn't bothered) but as soon as we asked his opinion ex: 1)sell his car, he wasn't driving. 2) cut down a tree, its needed 3)leave the yard sprinklers on, grass dying 4) close the windows, its HOT use the a/c. 5) going outside in the dark, & he can barely walk.
he wouldn't agree to common sense stuff. and his judgement was bad.
at a certain point you just cant listen to what they tell you anymore.
luckily for me, my mom and dad had a trust and will set up with an attorney
& was able to get them to both agree to sign off
still it doesn't get someone to "agree" to anything
my dad has passed away. but my mom has dementia pretty bad. she still thinks at times that she is able to do the same things she used to be able to do.
This is the first year I will not have daddy on Father's Day,
he passed at Christmas. I had the car issue and the gun issue.
Very challenging. The home is empty now and being sold.
My life is calmer now, but I miss him so much.
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