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Once it starts, it progressively gets worse over time.
When symptoms of Alzheimer's begin to show, the average lifespan is around 10 years.
When my mother first developed signs of dementia, she lived another 10 years almost to the day.
It's sad to watch a parent you love turn into a someone you no longer recognize, especially when they say hurtful things or don't trust you due to this cruel disease.
Try to remember them for the good times and what they taught you when growing up.
Update:
I visited a Secured Memory Care Unit last week and by Friday, I needed it. My cousin called and said she was at the mall with friends and invited me to join them. I went over and tried to redirect her and it worked, but a couple of hours later, she wheeled her wheelchair into the parking lot of the ALF saying she was looking for her car. (She has no car there.) I went back over and the ALF director and nurse suspected a UTI so they took her to the hospital. Her paranoia left and she became euphoric and giddy. They kept her in the hospital until Monday and she did not have a UTI. Sunday she had a bad delusion and they gave her a small dose of Haldol in the hospital. (I've read that's not good for dementia patients.) (She was already on Cymbalta and that has brought her mood up.)
We left the hospital and went straight to the Secure Memory Unit. She was happy to go since it's located in her hometown. She knew landmarks along the way and was thrilled to go! She immediately went inside and had dinner and began talking to her new friends. When I left she was smiling and watching tv with her new roommate!
The paranoia is gone for now, but could return. I get it. I think I will have her consult with a Geriatric Psychiatrist anyway to see if medication could help the bad times. I know there will be certain declines. I just need a couple of weeks to regain my strength and save my business before there is another crisis.
The director at the new place says she did very well last night even asked for assistance to go to the bathroom without prompting!!!!!!! Huge change. They say she may not need the pull ups. The former place put her in pull ups and says she was incontinent. I noticed that at the hospital she also said when she had to go to the bathroom. I'm wondering why she didn't at the the former ALF.
I also mentioned this on another thread I started about Haldol.
Thanks again all. This board is my only real support system. I have no one else to help with my cousin. I've been so stressed I have clinched my teeth and cracked one! Oh well.....in the scheme of life it's just a tooth right? lol After what we have gone through, it's not that big of a deal. Damaged brains and spines get my attention, but a tooth is just a tooth.
Update: I visited a Secured Memory Care Unit last week. It's a good thing, because by Friday, I needed it. She called me and said she was at a mall with friends and I should come on over. I went by the ALF and visited with her and tried to redirect. She insisted she had to be home by a certain time I convinced her to wait until I got all her paperwork completed and that would be some time next week and I would take off work and come over. She said fine, but after I left she went in her wheelchair into the parking lot to get into her car! She does not have a car there. The ALF called me and suspected UTI. We agreed to take her to hospital.
In the hospital she was almost giddy with excitement. Most of the delusions were pleasant, but one was not and they gave her an injection of Haldol on Sunday. (She went on Cymbalta a few weeks ago.)
We left the hospital Monday morning and went straight to the Secure Memory Care Unit. She smiled all the way over and was thrilled to be back in her hometown. She recognized it. She immediately ate a meal, something she's not being doing lately and was talking with her new friends when I
I have a separate thread about the Haldol you may visit.
She's doing much better there and I sense they know how to direct her more than the other place. They say she's eating well and even asking for assistance to go to the bathroom without prompting! She may go back to regular panties.This is huge as she was labeled incontinent at the former place.
I know what is going to happen. There are patients there in all stages of the disease. As I describe in my other thread, I'm going to consult with a geriatric psychiatrist if the paranoia resumes to see if meds for it would be advisable.
Thanks again.
Update: I visited a Secured Memory Care Unit last week. It's a good thing, because by Friday, I needed it. She called me and said she was at a mall with friends and I should come on over. I went by the ALF and visited with her and tried to redirect. She insisted she had to be home by a certain time I convinced her to wait until I got all her paperwork completed and that would be some time next week and I would take off work and come over. She said fine, but after I left she went in her wheelchair into the parking lot to get into her car! She does not have a car there. The ALF called me and suspected UTI. We agreed to take her to hospital.
In the hospital she was almost giddy with excitement. Most of the delusions were pleasant, but one was not and they gave her an injection of Haldol on Sunday. (She went on Cymbalta a few weeks ago.)
We left the hospital Monday morning and went straight to the Secure Memory Care Unit. She smiled all the way over and was thrilled to be back in her hometown. She recognized it. She immediately ate a meal, something she's not being doing lately and was talking with her new friends when I
I have a separate thread about the Haldol you may visit.
She's doing much better there and I sense they know how to direct her more than the other place. They say she's eating well and even asking for assistance to go to the bathroom without prompting! She may go back to regular panties.This is huge as she was labeled incontinent at the former place.
I know what is going to happen. There are patients there in all stages of the disease. As I describe in my other thread, I'm going to consult with a geriatric psychiatrist if the paranoia resumes to see if meds for it would be advisable.
Thanks again.
The only shows she likes now are the Price is Right, The Chew, and she used to like Katie, but Katie is 'gone' she tells me.
She'll watch a little baseball, she likes Dancing with the Stars, etc. Oh, and Lawrence Welk which is on PBS Saturday nights. He's a Godsend!
She has severe hearing loss with AMD, one eye is about 10% light coming in peripherally, the other is about 25%. That in and of itself floors me because I think How would I feel if that was me and I could hear and/or see stuff!
While it helps the patient if you explain over and over, it doesn't help the caregiver's stress levels, especially when the patient is trying to get a show that's not on just yet and the caregiver is dealing with, let's say, ants! crawling on the kitchen counter at the moment and/or someone at the door, with the dog barking :)
Thank you. You've described my mom to a T.
My mother was diagnosed with mixed dementia, paranoid delusions. She was placed on Venlafaxine, Olanzapine, and Mirtazapine. She was doing well for awhile, but has encountered what I call yet another plateau, i.e.,,stage, where her attention is that of a toddler. Her short term memory is nil, long term better.
Wretched, wretched disease!
In regards to watching television, of course shows with detailed plots are most difficult to understand but even comedy and entertainment shows can be difficult to follow. Game Shows are very good at holding attention spans. Although it might be difficult to grasp the entire shows concept game shows are generally upbeat. They are easier to follow in some ways because when show participants win everybody is happy. The audience applauds and cheers them on. This creates an upbeat mood that can be infectious and tends to keep an Alzheimer's patient engaged longer. You can ask the facility if they subscribe to the game show network.
I try to put the tv on some of her favorite light hearted shows when I visit, but lately she doesn't care for the tv. She was a tv fanatic most of her life. She won't look at the screen longer than a few seconds. I bought her a small radio with ear phones, but she lost interest in that too and won't even talk about her favorite music anymore. I do visit the ALF when they have visiting singers and we enjoy that.
I do redirect her and tell her I'll look into all her concerns and get back with her. That seems to work, but she is so distressed when she's on these paranoid phases. I'm sure she is distressing the ALF staff too. I'm not sure how much of that they can tolerate. Any chance that will let up as she progresses further.
I'm not sure what they could give her for anxiety. She was on Xanax and that was a disaster. She fell numerous times and didn't want to get out of bed. The ALF says that drug is problematic for those with dementia. I guess I'll let her new doctor decide. Anything that relaxes her makes her fall down. She has zero balance anyway.
I'm surprised it takes 6-8 weeks for the antidepressant to kick in. The dr. told me 2 weeks. ? Oh well, maybe it hasn't kicked in yet and she will feel better once it does. I appreciate you comment.