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I'd might try to delegate more tasks. If finances permit, I'd retain an attorney to help with most of the paperwork. A competent, experienced attorney and their staff can handle many things for you, with your approval and signature of course.
Having so many things on your plate is bound to create lots of stress.
And I'd do the same with the on hands care giving. I'd delegate as much as possible, like cleaning, laundry, errands, etc.
I've been so stressed out over the years that I had crashed and burned. Now if anything pops up that would stress me big time, my attitude now is "whatever". Oh what a relief it is.
I know what you mean about dealing with trying to close an estate. Today I had my first visit at the County Courthouse for probate. I was handed a ton of papers to which I will hand over to my Dad's Elder Estate Attorney as she will complete the paperwork... she will be worth every penny spent :)
You have been through a great deal and it will take months, and maybe years to recover, Some things you go through you never get over, but you develop a new normal in your life. All that went before is part of you now and I doubt you will go back to being the person that you were before. That does not meant that you cannot have a good life, but likely it will be a somewhat different one. Spend time on you - relaxing, hobbies, exercise, being with friends etc. Help the new you to emerge. Be sure to get enough rest, eat properly and keep yourself hydrated. Cry when you need to. Therapy is a very good idea. Do keep us updated on how you are doing. ((((((hugs)))))
My stepmom would tell me she needed something several times a day just for herself to recharge enough to keep going. My dad needed full time care and was not yet in a nursing home at the end and she couldn't leave him at all. It was very stressful and she went into it knowing she needed to find small ways at home to de-stress. Good luck to you. I think coming to this site might continue to help also!