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2. You should look to see if there is Adult Day Care in your area. Sending him to Day Care a few days a week will be a lifesaver for you. He will get a break and so will you. I am sure he will tell you he does not feel well when he goes but that is anxiety and he will get used to a routine. And there are medications that can help with his anxiety.
Have you talked to an Elder Care Attorney? If not you really need to schedule an appointment to get things going that you will need to set up. Will you have to apply for Medicaid for him at some point?
Is your husband a Veteran? If so depending on where and when he served he may qualify for help through the VA. It could be a little help or a LOT.
You mentioned he gets angry. When he gets angry does he get violent? If so this is something that you need to take into consideration down the road. Safety should be your priority. Your safety as well as his. If you get injured caring for him who will care for both of you? If you injure him while caring for him it can make things much more difficult. So while this is not urgent now PLEASE think about what you will do if it comes to making a decision about placing him in a Memory Care facility.
Find a support group in your area that you can attend. Some will offer respite if you have no one to watch him while attending a meeting.
She has cared for her hubby at home as long as she can--but he's becoming more belligerent and has started 'wandering' and she can't get a decent night's sleep b/c of it.
She is looking in placing him in a MC facility. He does not know who she is, so I guess that makes it a little easier on her.
She did have interim CG's and was mindful of her own need to stay healthy and strong and did so very gracefully. Even when he was challenging, she was sweet and calm with him. But she knew this day would come.
The cruel thing about life no matter what happens those bills keep on flooding in.
I do keep in touch with out of town friends via computer and text. So have that conversation.
My husband talks alot, non stop, about nothing. But I have found out cutting out caffine and sugar has really helped slow that down. But when he does that when the TV is on, I put my TV head phones on and I can enjoy the program, or go in the next room and work on my puzzle for awhile.
With being a caregiver, we have to take care of ourselves. Try to catch your breath more often and do something for yourself each day.
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