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Anyway, I am glad my sig-other has sports on the brain, it gives me a lot of free time to work on my hobby of researching family trees :)
DH must have been doing FB before you married? If not, then I would ask him, why now?
Personally I think anyone over 60 should not get married. Just date. Have fun but don't live together or get married.
I would neither complain nor enable.
Life is short. You are young but not young enough to waste these great years. How many years do you have invested in this relationship?
I like your idea of seeing a therapist.
Maybe it is time to explore what you really wanted in a husband. You may find he is closer than you think now.
It is a pretty common observation that women marry a man thinking they can change him.
If he is happy as he is, then, as always, it is up to the party complaining to make the changes if you want to keep him. Just make sure the changes are worth it to you long term.
You say in the bio that you are caring for someone who is depressed with mobility issues. Is that you or him? is the depression issue diagnosed or your idea that he must be if he doesn’t want to participate in life with you? Are the mobility issues ones he can easily improve by being more active or is he actually in pain? Has he sought help?
Last thought. Did he just retire? That can be really tough for some.
Let us know how the therapy goes.
Make plans of things that you would like to do, and some that he would like to do. If he does not want to participate go yourself. (post on FB so he will know what he is missing! 😉)
As with a lot of addictions unless he wants to curtail the activity it is not going to happen. And the last thing you want to do is harp on it.
You could end up with some fun posts and a worldwide following:
"Here is our spaniel enjoying tonight's surf 'n' turf with home made julienne frites and a Bearnaise sauce (he said hold the salad, thanks). I did tell my husband dinner was on the table but I couldn't get hold of him for some reason..."