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Make sure she cannot get access to items like hard candy that would be deemed a choking hazard.
I got my dad a little fridge that he could keep his bologna and miracle whip in, yuck! I did get him drinking unsweetened almond milk instead of chocolate milk and he always kept a quart or 2 for a sweet treat. He had a large drawer under the fridge for bread and chips and canned food, he loves beanie weenies and vienna sausages. I couldn't take him shopping, I can't in good conscience feed anyone that stuff. No judgment, just picky. But allowing him to have that stash in his room satisfied something that he couldn't explain.
Might it be that your mom just doesn't want to make another trip to the kitchen and takes more than she will actually eat? That coupled with other dementia related factors... It means a bit more work and planning for you but maybe coupled with the snack basket idea making things that wont spoil easily accessible using that idea in your kitchen could help. Putting things that wont spoil quickly in the front and most easily accessible spots in the fridge, things you don't want her absconding with in higher cabinets, just making it more difficult for her to get at the things you prefer she doesn't take anywhere without "barring" her from them. See if that helps, it may not. You might find that you need to keep better track of those things she takes or that are missing so if you have grapes for instance available you know by looking at the bowl if she took any to her room and if so you know to check for the evidence they were consumed or look for them if there isn't any.
The other thing of course that you could do is get a couple of camera's, maybe one in the kitchen and one in her room, that are motion triggered so you can see what she carries out of the kitchen and what happens to it in her room if it's missing. This doesn't mean you need to spend a lot of time looking back through her day but when you aren't sure what happened to that plate of food or spoon she took to her room you can kind of go back to see. If it weren't for the camera over my mom's table's and the Echo's there is no way we would be able to manage her well enough. Depending or your longer term plan these are things better put in place sooner rather than later so your mom can adjust to them before it's too late for her to have the ability to adjust, if that makes sense.... Good luck, this is always a journey of discovery and a lesson in adaptability, ingenuity I have found!
Now, I don't sweat the small stuff... she can take whatever she wants & if she dies from eating it .. she's an adult, even with her increasing memory loss - I can't stop her.
My mom walked around her suite without a walker after hip surgery from a fall ... she didn't like me being "Dr. daughter' so I let it go .. she's going to do it if I'm not there anyway.. I just helped her find ways to do as much as she could safely without the walker .. 3 mos. has passed and she got a cane but hardly uses it, even with instability.
I say, if she dies trying to be independent, forgetful ... she's dying how she wants. I
I am not dealing wit full blown Alzheimers, but the dementia where they forget/rememberforget/recall .. that crazy period where they KNOW they are forgetting stuff & it does scare them some. My mom was always very independent - we know they're going to do some crazy stuff. I finally got her to give me some clothes to wash after 9 mos. of trying .. yea, big accomplishment !
I feel like, for the most part my mom is safe from big harm, if she falls or whatever, she's an adult & is striving to continue living life on her terms (as much as possible - she would rather live on her own still, the retirement home w/ meals, cleaning etc.. helps her & makes me feel better - even though she likes the people but dislikes the decline in her health & isolation (b/c she won't do any activities :/ , that's another post, again up to her )
I also like the idea of having a snack basket that mom can help herself to - day or night. Fill it with bottles of water and juices, easy to eat fruit, shelf stable cheese and crackers or nut butters and crackers... She may have gone through a period in her past where food was scarce or more difficult to come by.
Peanut butter sandwiches were his go to. Always hid under his mattress.
Having a bit of mischievous, or something to that effect.
What does she generally do with the food she takes?
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I put a pot lid away one morning and found it 3 months later under a pile of quilting material. :-)
Make a special "welcome basket" in her room with snacks that you are ok with for her to eat. Like in a hotel... Lil water bottles, fig nutines. cheezits, gold fish crackers. LIttle individual packs, placed nicely ina little disply tray.. And if you are okay, with that, maybe a fresh fruit of somekind, apple, or orange, or a little bunch of grapes, or individual packs of dried plums (prunes). It doesns't have to be a big tray, just a small one with a few things in it for her to choose. cheese n cracker packs, you know, the ones we stuck in our kids lunch boxes.
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I put many items in cupboards elsewhere in the house. Inconvenient yes, but again you get used to it. You might never completely conquer the situation but it can be minimized. Locking the cupboards is a real pain - just move stuff away.
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