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Laugh gently at them when they suggest that you are a less than a caring child .
" Oh, so sorry that you're not on board with the current thinking about how much better it is for elders to be among their peer group, and have their kids visit, as opposed to being carers. I must send you some articles"
If they keep it up you may have to call each person and tell them to please stop calling the AL.
They will not tell Mom she has to leave because these people are being Giant Pains. They’re used to dealing with difficult family members. However, if these people visit mom and cause her to become upset, further steps may need to be taken.
It might be worth writing a letter, printing out copies, and sending it to each of them, explaining why she moved. The letter should also say how common it is for people to hate to move to any sort of care, and how important it is to help them to settle in by telling them that it has been the best option and how nice the place seems to the visitor. You should say how much she values their social contact and how good it has always been for her. You could also give a copy to the AL staff, with a list of the names it has gone to.
‘These people’ are annoying you a great deal, but if they are still your mother’s friends and family members, you don’t really want to cut her off from them. See if you can get them to help, not hinder. It would be best if you can keep them on reasonable terms with both you, your mother and the facility. Swallowing down your understandable reactions now might pay dividends for a long time in the future.
But, if you have POA and Medical POA, you can block any interference from these people with staff. If they give you guff directly I would say "have you all reached a consensus on what is to be done? And have all of you agreed to finance this and do the work that is required to accomplish this?" and "how much are you willing to contribute to a living situation that would suit YOU better?"
Say it sweetly. That will shut them up.
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