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My mother doesn't want to use the bedside commode anymore, so when her knee is sore and she can't walk with the walker, she transfers from her bed or chair into her wheelchair. I take the walker into the bathroom, then wheel Mom up the walker, she uses the wheelchair arms to stand, the walker to turn 90 degrees and sits down on the toilet. Reverse to get back to the bedroom.
I don't find cleaning up after an adult's BMs any worse than cleaning up after a young child, other than the embarrassment factor for the adult. Stocked with the incontinence products there are some very large wipes/disposable washcloths to clean the major mess away, then you can use normal baby wipes for final cleaning (I like to use the ones with aloe). I discard the wipes into a plastic grocery bag or on the disposable pad during the cleaning, then close and tie the bag or wrap the pad around the discarded mess and then put it in a plastic grocery bag and tie it close to contain everything. You can usually find some latex gloves to wear too if neither you nor your uncle are allergic. It's not pleasant by any means, but it is bearable.
I put a clean panty over my mom's feet and about half way up her legs while she is sitting, then she stands and holds to the walker as I tear the soiled panty sides and remove it. I clean and apply a cream as needed, then pull the clean panty up. It's a little harder getting the clean panty into position if she's wearing pants, but since you are using diapers that shouldn't be a problem. We use pads under her for leaks, which usually are minor and only happen overnight.
If your uncle has enough cognitive capacity to follow simple directions, then this could work for him too. I recommend using the gait belt just in case he doesn't follow a direction at some point. A simple adjustable and fold-able walker is available at Walmart or a lot of drugs stores for $30-40. Adjust it as best you can so the handles are at the natural fall of your uncle's palms so he doesn't have to bend his arms too much. Have the PT tech adjust it when he comes.
PT can work with your uncle to build muscle and balance so he can stand without assistance. They can also show you gentle range of motion exercises (often using some stretch bands) to maintain muscle strength and range of motion while reducing pain from contracted muscles and reducing the chances of getting bed sores.
I think we're leaning towards sending him to rehab. I just wish I knew how long he might be there. Two weeks? A month? Two months? That hospital is horrible. So many people. They would not listen to us, everyone was always answering phone calls, running out of the room never to return.
Can't call PT until Monday around noon. Even if we used a transfer board, my uncle has little strength. Also, every little touch feels like a punch to him. He's extremely sensitive. His body is sore, but he doesn't understand and thinks we're being rough.
We're starting to think we should just leave him in bed and not make him use the toilet, just pee in his diapers. It's that bowel movement that has us worried.
I tried a transfer/gait belt (the simple kind with no handles) and while that was somewhat better on me, he still had weight on that one foot.
A simple transfer isn't too much problem. It's the transfer to the portable toilet and back that is the problem because his diaper needs to be pulled down/taken off. Should we not put him in a diaper? Just sit him on a bunch of pee pads in the recliner?
I still blame the hospital. They weren't supposed to have released him until we talked to PT. As it was, they told us so many contradictory things it was ridiculous.