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Are you having your sister do all the hands on work so you have this information? Are you telling your sister what food she has to prepare for mom or have you hired a home chef to prepare these healthy meals?
I just can't imagine how your sister has managed to deal with you and mom. Your mom needs to grow up and get her own home. Your sister needs you to facilitate that, not give her more work so you can be in charge of her medical care. Which is false and I promise you that your sister would disagree that it is very helpful. Your mom is capable of arranging transportation and doctors appointments, she needs to do for herself. She is to young to be sucking the life out of your sister.
Find mom a suitable place to live and tell your sister that you are moving mom. That is the only family meeting that should be called.
What is your mother's financial situation? She's too young for Medicare. Is she Medicaid-eligible? What is the plan for her going forward (is there one?), because it's obvious that the current situation isn't working,
Please have a very frank discussion with your Sister, who has likely wished to broach this subject, but has hesitated because of the difficulty of doing so. Ask her if she feels she can continue with in home care. If you are able to be there to discuss this face to face that would be a great help, but that may not be possible. Long distance care must be difficult enough for you, but in person day to day is, as you will know, something else entirely.
I hope you will update us on how things go and I wish you all every bit of luck. As a nurse you know what CHF means, and now with the heart attack that will likely be worse. I hope for the best for you all.
It's a familiar situation. After 17 years of taking care of my mother, my sister who lives 500 miles away, insisted she would do a better job managing mom's healthcare. She threw in the towel after a week. Your sister has far too much on her plate, with no end in sight, which is a very lonely place to be. My suggestion would be to step back a bit and ask your sister what she wants to do since she is most familiar with mom's situation. Unless you want mom move in with you, tell your sister you will support whatever decision she wants to make in the best interest of BOTH mom and sis. That did not happen in my situation. Although things were much more complex than I can get into here, after mom's death last year, my relationship with my sister has never been the same.