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So, I am practicing ignoring many of her comments, and redirecting the conversation to unrelated or neutral topics. This also makes her mad but she eventually gives up when she can't get me to respond. Or, I walk away without an explanation and then return later. It takes practice to re-learn how to interact with her as a different and ever changing person. She can't help it, it's her dementia. She was never this bad in prior years so I have to keep remembering those days. I wish you patience, wisdom and peace in your heart on this difficult journey.
When you get a clearer picture of what he and you are dealing with, you will be able to understand him better and react or NOT react, to him in a different way, hopefully better for you and for him.
Dementia is a wretched thief of reality. Be good to yourself. He made need more distance from you or perhaps less.
So, I laid it out to her, if she started on me I would gather my things up and leave, and I did, I once left her and got my own hotel room when she really got nasty while I was driving her back home from Florida, in my car no less.
I picked up my stuff and secured my own room, didn't have a thing to do with her that night.
She would be good for awhile and it would start all over again, I finally had enough 13 years ago and went no contact, she is now in AL and dumping on my brother.
By the way, she does not have dementia, it is just who she is.
Personally, I would back off, at my mothers' AL the doctor comes in to see her, they have a staff nurse and a doctor who visits weekly. He can always hire Uber to take him where he wants to go.
There is no easy answer to this problem as most likely he has been surly most of his life, you are just his target now.
My siblings are only interested on the financials, they do not care about him, same with his siblings. When I was going through the court system to get guardianship and conservatorship for him his brother stole over $100k, I got the judgement in my favor but could not afford more attorneys fees to try to collect.
the point is please acknowledge your brother’s help in taking care of her and make sure to help him as I know he needs the break and the help.
someone here told me do not take it personally, it is the disease, now that is a tall order if you ask me. 🤪 As you I am stepping away for awhile as this is weighing heavily on me.
Best wishes to all of us.