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You spend time with him, and tell him what you need/want to say to him before he dies. You leave nothing left unsaid.
You bring hospice on board and make sure you're taking advantage of their social worker, clergy and grief counseling.
And then you accept that death is part of life and that when your father dies, you will have the rest of your life ahead of you, so please make the most of it.
You're going to be ok.
You are watching a part of yourself die, Someone that has been with you your entire life and it is hard to realize they will not always be there.
Take the time to spend as much time with your dad as you can.
If he is able to talk listen to him.
Thank him for being the person he is.
Hold his hand.
Tell him you are going to be alright.
Be glad that you have a father that you have good feelings about. If you have read enough posts here you know that many do not have parents that they feel that way about.
If dad is on Hospice talk to the Social Worker and or the Chaplain if you feel the need to talk or ask questions.
One of the replies I saw on this forum some one mentioned Hospice Nurse Julie. I have seen some of her YouTube videos and her FB posts and she is very straight forward about death and dying and answers a lot of questions. If you like check out some of her videos.
Just sitting by his side, watching RoadRunner cartoons---or him asking me to sing to him for hours on end--talking, reminiscing, whatever HE wanted to do, I did.
The only thing I COULDN'T do for him was to take his pain on myself. All I could provide was love and peace.
Neither of my other sisters ever had the 'time' to do for dad. I'm grateful I made the time.
We were all with him when he passed. Sweet, peaceful and the transition to a place where he no longer felt pain.
I feel his presence near me, often.
What kind of help do have coming in to assist with dad's care?
Are you talking about coping physically, emotionally?
Do you have hospice on board?
((((Hugs))))
It does need a team though, I also hope you have help.