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What is the handicap? Is it the not being taught to fend for yourself? That is not a handicap, you choose over the last 50+ years to allow your mother to do for you. What stopped you from getting a job, an education, independence?
If you have a medical disability, that is another thing, but you do not state that in your post.
What do you consider to be the life skills of someone who is 20-25? I know many people in that age range, they are working, paying their own way, traveling, going to university, marrying, buying homes, having families and more.
How do you prove to your brothers that you want to be self sufficient? Just do it. If you have never worked, get off your duff and find a job, if you have no experience, volunteer until you get some, take a course or two.
Do your own laundry, cooking and cleaning, start today. But do not expect to get praise for doing it. If you are looking for praise for looking after yourself, you will be disappointed. Nobody gets a gold star for washing their own dishes.
I never thought about an adult workshop Ahmijoy mentioned, but if there's one in your area, please seek it out. Perhaps a local community college has aptitude tests that can help you focus on certain job skills and counsel you on obtaining those. Lastly, a therapist may also help you stand up for yourself and find that inner strength so you have a more productive and happier life.
You obviously have access to and can use the Internet. Start job-hunting according to your skill level if you want to work. If someone holds guardianship for you, they can help once they realize you are serious. Find an adult workshop that can train you to be self-sufficient. When someone insists on “doing for” you, firmly say, “No, I want to learn how to do it for myself!” Saying and doing are 2 different things. If you prove yourself capable of learning how to do things by yourself, you will earn their respect.