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Chat to the governing body to seek compassionate consideration - he is still an asset with his experience.
Perhaps you can gently tell your husband that it's someone else's turn now. If he's still capable, he can serve as a mentor, but the actual job needs to be taken on by someone else now.
Whether it's a placque, or a certificate, or even better yet, a socially distanced good-bye party, let him hold his head high and remember his accomplishments.
And on that level, and although it would be time consuming, a nicely prepared collection of photos in a nice old fashioned photo album would be a great memory, something he can look at over the years and of which he can be proud.
The suggestions to ask the sports organization to acknowledge your husband's contributions over the years are great. Please keep in mind that this has been a large part of your husband's identity. My dad officiated football, baseball and basketball from the time I was young and loved it. He was in the Army for 36 years and another 12 in Civil Service before retiring, so officiating became the main part of his identity. My mother insisted he fully retire from officiating when he was in his 80's (in order to travel more), and it took a real toll on him. He had a bit of dementia starting at that point, which seemed to quickly get worse. I wish we had thought about contacting the organizations for certificates/acknowledgements for his service. My heart is with you during this time, and I pray you'll find ways for your husband to feel useful and appreciated.
They should be acknowledging 35 years of service and have the back bone to "retire" him to his face.
Maybe there are others contributions that he could make.
This kind of attitude is why so many sports have a difficult time finding volunteers, because they are used and disposed of like trash.
Tell them to man up and handle this man that gave 35 years of his life to the sport like he matters. I would be livid with these yahoos.
I don't know how you tell him. The only thing I could think of is for you to call up other sport places and asking them if they could use a volunteer. This way he could donate some of his time doing what he enjoys doing. If a place accepts his volunteer work then you can say to him "darling, you are needed more here"... or something to that effect.
Best to you both,
Jenna
I think you simply have to be truthful and hopefully have things to remind him about that are positive.
Depending on his mental state he may keep asking. My husband and I have both had several serious medical issues in the past few years. They have changed our physical abilities to certain degrees. We are almost 65 and 71. We just attended the wake of a formerly very vibrant 61 year old exercise teacher who passed away from ovarian cancer after just a 6 month battle with it. That was very sobering and I wish with all my heart she was still alive. I don't know if you have an example such as that in your life to talk to him about.
I wish you strength. I know I need it constantly when telling my mother that PT is not going to continue with her because they feel her legs have lost the memory so to speak to support herself after a serious septic infection. I simply have to constantly point out how much better she is in other ways than she was 6 months ago.
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