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Use what are called "therapeutic fibs", such as what eyerishlass had mentioned above. I had to use such fibs with my Mom [98] when she "wanted to go home" and visit with her parents and siblings. I had to tell Mom they were busy, they would call later, they are away for the weekend, etc. My Mom also thought she could stand up and walk, which was no longer possible, she kept falling. There was no way my Dad would take care of Mom in her condition. So I understand your concern.
I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's condition. I know you love him very much and only want to make him happy. I wonder if you can pacify him for now and say let's see how you are doing in a month's time. It sounds like he needs a lot of care and it is a lot for one person to take on. I don't know if it would help to have a social worker, doctor or family therapist talk to him about his condition and that possibly a nursing home might be a better fit.
After my father's stroke, he was able to talk and move but he was severely weakened. And then all the meds weakened him further because he could not eat. I did everything the social worker asked so he could go home. But I failed to realize how much work it took to manage his pills, meals, daily care, doctor's appointments and managing the home on top of that.
It's really hard to see the people we love suffer. I know I wanted desperately to make my father happy. It was tough.
I know others will give more insight. Thinking of you and your family.