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My Dad kept pretty much to his room at senior living but he did keep his apartment door opened so that people could pop in to say "hi". Dad did enjoy going to the "restaurant" for all of his meals and be with his table mates. He did go to physical therapy. On the down time, he was happy as a clam sitting in his recliner with the sun beating down on him, either reading or watching TV.
I figure being in his 90's, Dad should be allowed to make choices that are comfortable for him.
I am amazed that a doctor would "order" such. Who is he to tell me that I will "do better" being force into unwanted socialization?
Rather than to put her through that...how about she be allowed to leave whenever she wants? Maybe make it so she must go, but can leave whenever?
Though, is encouraged the right word? Does she actually have any option?
Socialisation is generally considered to be good for people. Sitting alone, never talking to anyone, never interacting except on the most basic level - your brain is bound to fall into disrepair. I do get what the idea is.
Having said that. Being trapped in a room with the t.v. on, forced to overhear conversations along the lines of "did you go to the bathroom? DID YOU GO TO THE BATHROOM? Well, let's get you to the bathroom!" to your left, and "I said, YOU WENT ALREADY!" to your right, with nothing to look at except a couple of your contemporaries slipping sideways in their chairs as they struggle to stay awake, and the backsides of aides bending over to prop them up again....
Got to be the second circle of H*ll, surely, if not lower down than that?
So if she really doesn't want to spend this much time in the common areas, for whose benefit is she being made to?
How about trying a compromise such as her agreement to stay up and about for one hour after breakfast for her posture, if not for the company; and to try all group activities at least once - you could get a weekly schedule from the co-ordinator. There is one, is there?
But yes, you should feel free not to engage directly. Delegate this negotiation by all means. And all credit to you for standing up to that bullying, by the way.
I wish for you that your mother would realise you are in fact on her side. Hugs.