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I think I would wait for sis to make the first move . She’s the one having a problem with this . But that’s just me . I am biased due to my experiences .
Me? I would let sleeping dogs lie.
You don't owe explanations, as I said.
Should your mother, in her lifetime, require this 10K returned, and given you say you and hubby are doing well, I am certain you would happily return said funds; reassure sister in that regard. Then move on.
You aren't in control of the feelings of others.
I wish you the best.
Thank you kindly
J
My advice may not work for you under these circumstances,
But I'm going to tell you what I would like from my siblings if they ever want a relationship with me again.
Id want them to listen to me and validate the fact that I haven't always been treated right. That I'm the scape goat in the family. And more importantly respect the things that I do do. Talk to me like a friend
This sounds like a different situation here, but maybe all sibling rivalry issues are based on the similarities.
Best of luck to you
The recipient of any gift (monetary or otherwise) should not mention any gift to anyone. (so no telling anyone that you got mom's cookie jar)
The concern I would have is if mom is gifting money will at some point she need care and not have the finds. And if that is the case will those that received cash funds be able to repay the funds so that she can afford to pay for the care she needs?
J
Not sure how to repair that but if you do , I suggest no longer sharing with anyone how you help your single parent sister . It’s really none of anyone else’s business what you do with your money .
J