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Find Grief & Bereavement support groups in your area; and go with him the first couple of times. Clearly he hasn't got over the loss, and your current attitude towards him isn't helping. Some people take longer to heal, especially when a part of you dies when the love of your life is no longer around. He needs to fill that void and take his life back in order to move on. Don't make him feel worse than he already does.
-- ED
See if you can find some emotional support, either through friends, groups, or even religion (if you are inclined.). I think
you would be able to deal with your father with some help and it will make you feel better.
How old is your dad? Is he pretty healthy? Lazy people certainly are annoying but can you talk to him about it? You need to get some help and some support so that you can feel better. Good Luck
I like the redefinition above of "water under the bridge" - oh, too true....
No matter how hard I try to let her suffer the consequences, it still seems to end up being my issue to deal with.
I too have days of resentment and fear. Caregiving is isolating and you feel as if you will never get your life back. I am not at all prepared for this and I have no one in my immediate family who will/can help.
I agree with all above, you need to find some outlet for your emotions: caregiver's groups, in-home help, clergy, counseling. Also, does your step-father have children/family who can step in and take him? You should not have to shoulder the burden on your own.
good luck...Lilli
my hatred is nore to the fact that he is lazy he was always lazy depression or not he is capabile of alot more and he takes advantage of the fact that we ? me sill do everything
Feeling mad at people for either dying or surviving someone is pretty common and normal, even though its not rational... no need to on feeling bad *about* feeling bad. Maybe there is some way to help your Dad feel better that will in turn help you too.