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I don't know what you life is like, but if this is how you wish now to spend it, and if it keeps her somewhere she loves, I would likely attempt to do this up to the point it was ruining my life.
The siblings are correct in that this is coming, and you are putting it off with your own body, heart and soul.
I would discuss this with management of the facility as they may be very close to discussing it with you.
As your mother is acclimated to assisted living facility she may adapt ALSO to the MC, and be safer, allowing you to attempt to withdraw yourself slowly a bit at a time to a better quality life for YOU.
I wish you the best.
Since you say hiring an aide is impossible , you are stuck doing your 60 hours until you transfer Mom to Memory Care or SNF . I don’t see what we can suggest .
I think YOU are the one not ready for Mom to be transferred.
However, I will speculate one thing - with you spending 60+ hours there to help out, the ALF are quite happy with your help, and so they are not saying anything.
I suspect that if you substantially reduced hours there, perhaps spending say 9 hours a week there, so their staff have to do their work, then quite quickly the ALF might be suggesting that Mom is no longer able to be supported by them in the ALF. just my hunch hearing this description.
So the big factor to answer your question in the title is whether you are ok continuing to put in 60+ hours a week directly in the ALF to support things to keep working out.....
We are a Forum of complete strangers, but the staff and administration of the ALF is right there at her side 24/7 daily.
They will be your best guide as to the level of care she requires.
For my brother's facility it was finely combed out the needs of the senior, the ability of staff to provide with less staff in the ALF versus more in the MC, the requirements and needs and thoughts of other residents.
Make an appointment today. It would seem to me that level of care has already risen to level IV? You may not pay a whole lot more for MC and it may be safer situation.
You are correct about Lewy's. My brother was diagnosed with probable early Lewy's by his symptoms. He told me he dearly wished to die before it progressed and took all his powers and control from him. He died of sepsis before that could happen, and more and more, over these last five years since his death, I am profoundly grateful for his passing before it could progress. I am so sorry for all you are going through.
Before you may any decisions regarding her care, please make sure she doesn't have any other medical issues going on, like a UTI, which is very common in older women due to changes in hygience, physiology and pH. It can produce dementia-like symptoms and increase dementia symptoms in those who have it.
If it turns out she has indeed become wheel-chair bound, this is "good news" in the sense that she may now qualify for LTC, which is covered in FL by Medicaid.
Does the facility she is currently in accept Medicaid? If not, she will need to be moved. Her physician will need to assess her as requiring LTC. This is one of the qualifying criteria to be eligible for Medicaid. The other is financial need. Please consult with a Medicaid Planner in FL before you do anything so that you can get her accepted as quickly as possible.
I'm so sorry for these circumstances. May you gain clarity and wisdom and receive peace in your hearts that you're doing the best for her.
They can help you navigate through this process. I do not have any experience with having to place a parent in memory care.
Wishing you peace as you continue to care for your mom.