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I'd also say that perhaps it's time your Aunt doesn't have access to a phone. I know someone whose father was in a NH and somehow found the NH administrator's home phone number and started calling her at night (usually around 2am) and raising cain with her about his being kept there against his will and making threats. They finally had to take his phone away. I had to make the same step with my father, when his between-dialysis toxin levels would get too high and affect his thinking. These situations can get a little ugly if the wrong phone call is made.
I hope you can make some headway on this - I know it must be a hard thing to deal with.
Remember, when it comes to memory issues, it is not unusual for patients to make up stories. And even if she and her new BFF are plotting, that is all they are doing. Her BFF is in Assisted Living for a good reason, too. Doubt they would become Thelma and Louise, except in their minds.
In the whole scope of things, your Aunt could have a new next door neighbor who is a bully, so the current situation would seem like a walk in the park by comparison. Thus, I would just let it be.
Everyone in every facility, I am sure has issues with someone. There would be nobody left is evicted because of being a bad influence. Then what?
My mom was evicted because she became a danger to herself and other. This was physical endangerment, and her mouth got trashy at times too. But that was not the cause for having to go elsewhere.
Look on the bright side she has found someone to buddy up with and something to occupy her time. The therapy dog is not a bad addition either.
As Sue C said there is a pretty good chance new friend will be asked to move on again. Make sure senior staff is advised about what is going on and ask their advice about what can be done to ease your worries. Asking nicely always works better than acusing and demanding you want them on your side. If worse comes to worse is there another facility Aunt could be moved to?
This is what the judge would hear;
"My aunt's next door neighbor in the facility is corrupting her by swearing and putting thoughts in her head about going back home."
There is no legal issue here.
I would contact the Director of the facility and the ombudsman for the facility (name and phone number posted in a visible place somewhere in the facility (lobby, sitting room, main hallway, etc.). Explain what's going on and how can they deal with it.
Suggest the neighbor move to another area or offer that your aunt can move to get away from her.