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I worry that they will not be calm or cooperative, so medical transport won't be an option. I like the idea of telling them it's just temporary. My sister and I will both be driving them (we are taking them to her city) so I'm hoping we can handle it between the two of us. I expect some anger and perhaps verbal abuse but nothing physical. We are in communication with the senior living place and they are aware it's likely to be a hostile situation. At least they will be together.
Thanks again everyone.
Make sure the facility admins know they may be uncooperative in moving, or you are using a "therapeutic fib" (so that they can play along).
Consider moving 1 person per day, if it comes to this.
Are either of them on medication for depression, anxiety or agitation? If not, maybe this is something that can happen beforehand with their primary doctor.
Medical transport will only work if your parents are calm and cooperative. You will need to have a Plan B in case it doesn't go well.
I wish you success in getting them moved!
Guardianship/conservatorship is not depend on what state a person is in. Taking the parents 'across state lines' is nothing. The legal conservator/guardian can take them anywhere they want.
If it's court done it applies in all 50 states. Like a divorce decree. If you're legally divorced, it's legal everywhere.
My mother tried to wrest he steering wheel from my husband while we were driving her from rehab to Assisted Living.
You know them best; what will they accept? Whatever it is, use words that calm them. Remember, their idea of senior facilities is horrible places where people go to die.
Meanwhile, have someone arrange their new home in the manner of their old home arranging furniture in the same place, pictures on the wall in the same place etc. When you return from the day trip use sentences like... oh aren't you glad to be home, oh I'm so glad to be in your home its so nice. The ol' place is looking good. Wow how you have taken such good care of this home. I love coming home and seeing this place. This is how a friend of mine transferred his MIL to a memory care facility.
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