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Hope this helps.
Whether or not he gets an official diagnosis at this point I believe is irrelevant, as he seems to be doing pretty good right now. Perhaps as things progress he may be more open to being tested further.
If you are not already his POA, then I would make sure that gets done ASAP, as once his mental capacities decline more, he won't be able to designate a POA.
I would not waste your time worrying about what is to come. Instead I would just enjoy your time with your husband while he still seems to be doing pretty well.
You can't change what is going on with him, but you can change your response and whether you chose to worry about things that may not happen for a long time. So in the meantime, start educating yourself about Alzheimer's/dementia, and learn as much as you can, so you will be better prepared when the changes come. Knowledge is key in understanding, and will give you more peace of mind, and help you be better prepared for the future. Teepa Snow has some great videos on YouTube that you can start with.
So, please don't waste your time worrying about things you have no control over. That is so unproductive. Instead, get yourself educated, so that you will be better prepared when the time comes. Best wishes.
to know what to expect. Knowledge is key.
I do have POAs set up.
Thanks for the information on Aricept. I had not read that. The doctor said she had other medication she can try. I don’t
know what that is, yet.
Can I ask what a label will add to your lives right now? Will it help?
Frustratingly there is no blood test or scan to determine the type of dementia (that I know of).
Different symptoms will point towards a label, once enough symptoms.
I am a planner & like to know what I am in for, I would want to know a label too. But if not possible I suppose I would just research what I could.
The best thing I did was a free online course with University of Tasmania called Understanding Dementia. Academic styled but easy enough to follow.
Teepa Snow has great info & videos online - more directed at care techniques.
Aging Care will have numerous topics on types of dementia, behaviours & strategies too. Maybe some of that will help you feel more knowledable.
Maybe keep reassuring him he will only stop driving when it is no longer safe. He will need to trust you & his Doctor when this future date arrives (hopefully a while off yet).
As the neurologist said, there is a fine line between normal age-related memory loss, mild cognitive impairment, and dementia. She cannot diagnosis dementia, without more extensive testing. When I spoke to her the other day, she said he should not be handling money (he won’t relinquish control of paying bills). We are also building a house in another state. When we started that process, he seemed fine. He is on board with everything. I handled getting the loans and things, and did include him in everything. The issue came up this month when he opened the bank statement from the bank where the loan is (something he saw the previous month and understood). He thought I opened another account without his knowledge. That is when I called his neurologist. I explained what happened and that we were moving (several months away yet). She said she cannot tell us not to move (especially since it is in the works), but said that it is going to be hard on him (and I need to understand what I am getting into).
I think you're tearing yourself up with a lot of what-if and worst-case scenarios that may not be justified. I'd suggest starting to worry when you're really given something to worry about. Frankly, his issues don't sound all that dire at present, and I think he'd rather not have a diagnosis that will bring him down, too.
I think you have to respect his decisions for now.