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If it’s possible to let your father spend his last days where he is please do what you can to ensure that his wishes are honored.
You are in a ticklish situation, I wouldn't pretend there are any simple answers to this. But your assertion that Dad needs to be with his family - I'm sorry to throw sand in the works, but it doesn't sound like it. It sounds like he needs to be in familiar territory, but it's you and your brother who need him to head South for the winter.
That's why I ask if he's ever spent much time there, because you do want to factor in how much of a shock to his system this radically different location might be. There are some people you can't uproot so easily.
But whichever way you turn, the fact is your father can't manage on his own. Have you looked at memory care or dementia care facilities in his home state? I would give that option serious thought if I were you.
Maybe you can make it an adventure. The camper is a great idea. Tell him u can't stay for the Winter. Brother and you would love to have him spend the winter with you. He will have the holidays with you. Must have someones birthday in there. Tell him you will be going in style. So he is comfortable.
You understand though, that as his Dementia progresses, he will not be able to adjust to doing this yearly. They get where they need familiarity. You may want to think about the future. He will go thru many stages. Doing some odd things. They lose their reasoning and the ability to process. Short term gets worse and long term follows. They become like children. As POA you are going to have to make the hard decision...he cannot stay in Michigan. Fla near family would be what I would do. But to get Medicaid benefits in Fla., he may have to show residency for a period of time. Maybe a nice AL. The time will come when its not what Dad wants, but what he needs. And the decisions should be made with what is easier for you. Caregiving a person with Dementia is not easy. On ur terms helps.