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Yes, you can move out. This puts more pressure on DH, who may make a change. But it will probably ruin your marriage. The other option may be to cut down on what you actually do for FIL. Go and see your doctor, and make sure that you come away with ‘rules’ that you have to follow. You must not get up in the night. You must cook and eat separately – stress while eating could cause ??? (And just by the way, someone here has just died from stress and inhaling food in an eating competition, so it’s not total imagination). His laundry must be sent out (or DH must take and collect to a laundromat). You wear ear plugs in the house so you can’t hear him yell or ring the bell - and that bell should go missing anyway.
Perhaps you get a job that keeps you out of the house at times when he ‘needs’ support. Even a holiday somewhere else for a month (visiting your own relations?) might change the situation without you to prop it up.
The object of this is to make life less fun for FIL and more work for DH. You have to stop ‘enabling’ this behaviour (of both FIL and DH) by the work you do, and make the alternatives of a facility more attractive for them than keeping going like this.
You have my very sincere sympathy. Whatever you do is going to be very difficult, but perhaps thinking along the lines suggested may give you some more ideas yourself.
It appears that your husband is not tuned into your needs and places his father ahead of you. This attitude would not work for me under any circumstances.
IMO your husband needs to grow a backbone and do what is right for you, no excuses.
Good Luck!
Perhaps you need to have (another?) heart to heart talk with your DH and let him know the situation is not working out, and that you can no longer be a care giver to such a man who treats you this way. Either DH looks into alternate living arrangements for his father or perhaps both of them should move out and live together so DH can care for HIS father 24/7, instead of you. That may seem harsh, but so is the treatment YOU are receiving from both of these men! When you married DH, you did not agree to THIS living arrangement, that's for sure!
I am not usually one to recommend 'ultimatums' but in this case, I'm not sure what other choices you have! Because even if you hired an in home caregiver for FIL, you'd need someone round the clock for the middle of the night wake up calls for no good reason. That would be extremely cost prohibitive, not to mention another invasion of your privacy, the way I see it.
Wishing you the best of luck with this tough situation.